There’s so much noise in motherhood. Not just from kids… but everything.

Music always playing. Podcasts in the background. Shows on at night. Scrolling. Something constantly filling the space.

For a long time, I didn’t even notice how much I was surrounding myself with it. It just felt normal. But after postpartum, when I was trying to find my way back to myself…
I realized I didn’t actually know what I thought or felt without something else filling the space.

At one point I just had enough. I was touched out, overstimulated and was not feeling present or feeling peaceful in motherhood. So I started doing something really simple. I gave myself small pockets of… nothing.

Not meditation. Just quiet.

I didn’t sit down and say, “I’m going to meditate.” I didn’t follow a structure. I just started removing the noise.

No music.
No podcast.
No scrolling.
No TV.

Just silence. At first, it felt a little uncomfortable. Like I should be doing something or researching open ended play and things to make my kids childhood magical. But I didn’t.

What it looks like for me

It’s not hours of time. Just small, intentional moments.

In the morning

I open the back door, grab my coffee, just sit. Looking at the flower bushes. Listening to whatever is there. Not scrolling. Not listening to anything. Just being there.

In the evening

After the day is done, I lay in bed. No show, no phone, no background noise. Just my red light mask on, letting my body relax and then reading a novel.  Letting the day settle instead of jumping straight into more stimulation.

Why this mattered more than I expected.

It wasn’t about silence for the sake of silence.

It was about finally being able to:

• hear my own thoughts
• notice what I was feeling
• reconnect with my intuition
• giving my nervous system a break from the constant stimulation of being a mother

When everything is constantly filled, there’s no space for that.

And I didn’t realize how much I needed that space until I gave it to myself.

It helped me start trusting myself again

This was the biggest shift.

And it was slow and what seemed like a long time. But one day, it was like every time I chose to reconnect with myself finally paid off and I felt connected to myself again.

I started noticing:

• what I actually wanted
• what didn’t feel good
• what I was drawn to

And instead of looking outside for answers…I could feel them a little more clearly inside. I didn’t feel the need to search online for parenting answers and routines. They just naturally starting clicking for me. And I was trusting myself with those decisions.

You don’t need a lot of time

This doesn’t have to be long, structured or perfect.

It can be:

• a few minutes in the morning
• a quiet moment in the car
• laying in bed without turning something on

It might feel uncomfortable at first

If you’re used to constant noise, silence can feel boring, restless or unfamiliar.

That doesn’t mean it’s not working. It just means you’re not used to it yet.

For me I could barely sit still  at first. I would sit in quiet and then remember something I had to do or check on. It took some major work to just sit and do nothing with my mom brain still going at full speed.

If you want to try this

Don’t overthink it. Just start by removing something. You don’t need to add more to reconnect with yourself. Sometimes you just need to take things away. Happy quieting your Mom Brain!